Blue is the Warmest Color: Sexuality, Cinema, & Forget About Sochi

Originally posted on Sophia Harvey:

Blue is the Warmest Color Poster

I’ve just returned from seeing Blue is the Warmest Color for the second time. Before my first viewing, I was not aware of the enormous controversy that surrounds the film nor had I received word of its extremely explicit sex scenes — I had only heard from a friend that it was the most honest movie they had seen in years. And it is. I don’t believe that I have ever seen a film that expresses the complexity and raw emotion of first love as successfully. But it’s not the writing that’s causing a stir, it’s the sex, and I have to admit that it’s hard to ignore. Tonight, I saw it with my mother, and sitting together through the nearly 20 minutes (all told) of uncensored, unscored, uncropped lovemaking was a little hard to handle.

But in thinking about the experience, I’ve come to wonder why exactly it put…

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from the Bhagavad Gita

The wise mourn not for those who live and they mourn not for those who die, for life and death shall pass away. Invisible before birth are all beings and after death invisible again. They are seen between two unseens. What is there in this for lamentation?


Evolution : A Hindu Perspective

“To love” is an acquired skill

Originally posted on Cristian Mihai:

romanceFalling in love is easy. Too easy sometimes. We fall in love with someone who’s a little bit different than all the others we have met before, we fall in love when someone tells us something new about ourselves. we fall in love with the way someone acts or talks, we fall in love with people who have traits that are similar or exactly the opposite of ours.

There are just about a million different reasons why we fall in love.

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Live on Purpose, Live for Now

Prowling Raven:

Something to ponder on … a very well written post and fits in nicely in this blog. Thanks for sharing.

Originally posted on jessica simm | B L O G:

Remember those days as a kid how you were so carefree? Life was easy to digest.
You could flip around all day, climb the highest trees, see how long you can hold your breath under water, how fast you can run, how many cartwheels you can do in a row, maybe build a huge lego castle…
Basically anything to challenge yourself. You had zero regards for safety, time, judgement, and more importantly – nothing else in mind but “I’m going see how far I can push this”

You were a daredevil. We all were.

So now what’s changed?
We grew up, we’ve built somewhat of a life for ourselves, we see our lives in a light that we seem to think is a lot clearer – less naive. We have so much to think about daily. In fact, the average person is bombarded with anywhere between 20,000-70,000 thoughts per day, but…

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On being lesbian and why it is important to be proud of being queer, God loves you for coming out

Few readers of this blog will deny that I have a religious sense. Albeit, a non-practising religious sense. I read many verses, am happy with seeking jouissance from them, and showing off my reading to the world in this and other blogs. I also like the good life. In a sense, I am your quintessential heteresexual married bloke — I dig the things that make life worth living. This includes the company of my wife. I am a strictly monogamous person; I have a policy of not having any women friends whose relationships with me are exclusive. Exclusivity is reserved for my wife. & I have a kid too. My daughter is the really great, great gift that God has given me. & then I start thinking — my kid may grow up to prefer other women over men. I am cool with that. For the gift of sexuality is also a gift from the same God who has given me our daughter. (My daughter is not even five.) But I am all for keeping options open. I don’t want my daughter to grow up and live a hidden life; a life of shame and penal punishment. I see nothing wrong in any woman to be homonormative. Homonormative folks have a right to their bodies and they alone can choose to make a gift of their bodies to their same-sex partners. But then I stick to my guns — if someone is gay, the same rules apply as they do to a heterosexual person. No sex, intimate relationships, exclusive relationships with other partners. 

When long hence my daughter will read this, she should know that her parents loved her — and urged her to try commitment. I am certain that commitment to one person is a gift rarely to be found now; and in the future — scary: will not be found at all. 


Nutcases from all the major religions of the world are barking up all the wrong trees. They are bothered whether gay people do have the right to make love, or trysts between women are cool. But the real tragedy is that people of all sexual orientations are experimenting with their sex-lives too much. & having more than one sexual partner counts for too much; at least in my scheme of things. The real dangers are those old sexually transmitted diseases and AIDS, not to mention the roller coaster rides of being  nymphos or Don Juans . I have been told that syphilis is making a come-back. I hear of wife-swapping; FaceBook hook-ups and group sex. Someone also told me that having extra-marital sex aka affairs are signs that one has finally arrived in the higher echelons of Indian society. All these make me so pukish. LOL, I cannot have a free moment with my one family — how do others manage many wo/men? I don’t even want to know. Period. 

So here’s my list for being happy:

  1. Stick to your partner. 
  2. Don’t be afraid to be who you are — gay, lesbian, cross-dresser .
  3. Don’t get physically intimate with people with whom you know you are not going to spend your lifetime. 
  4. Do not confess your life on social media; so that some old flame (gay or otherwise) lends you a shoulder to cry — how many shoulders does a wo/man need to cry on? 
  5. If you are going to have sex and all that i write here are not deterrents, please go to a medical doctor first, and hear about the diseases you may get with polygamous behaviour. 
  6. Even if you believe nary a word of the major religions of the world — try out the Bhagavad Gita, the Gospel of John and some of the Upanishads. You’ll see some sense in restraining your urges. There has to be some difference between you and the lower animals who mate in heat. You are not a lower animal. You have agency and control over your body. 
  7. Give three hoots for those who deny the need for sexual expression. 
  8. If you are gay/lesbian; you do not have the right to bash all heteronormative folks; we too are humans you know!
  9. Avoid being intimate with those whom you think are so attractive. This rule applies when you are in a committed relationship. 
  10. There are no shortcuts to being holy — chastity is the norm whether you are straight or queer. 
  11. And if you are not straight, or you are bi-sexual, or you crave to change your sex, be honest and come out of your darned closet. Holiness demands that first you are comfortable about yourself, before preaching comfort to others. & if pundits tell you, you are shit for coming out — oh please, ask these learned blockheads how many times they looked with lust to other wo/men?Jesus says to tear out one’s eyes if they sin. Those a**holes who order you to repress who you are in the here and the now, need to be told to read the Bible. And the Bible also says, if we judge not, we won’t be judged. So if anyone is judging you, that person is not fit to be called a human. God loves all — the Self who is in all does not discriminate between straight and queer people.And remember Christ with that woman who was being pelted with stones? None really had the right to cast stones at her … remember God loves you with your sexuality. Sex is not a baggage, but a beautiful covenant between you and your partner. & may I add that even those of you who do not believe in God; God loves you more for daring to be homonormative in  a world structured around straight people. Do not fear — God is with you. But be chaste.

from Kaivalya Upanishad

There is no one to know me. I am eternal Consciousness.

from Rama Gita


I am Self luminous, unborn, one without a second, knowable only by jñāna yogins, pure, all knower, free from miseries, all-in-all, bliss and unchangeable.

translated by Vijnanananda Swami


He hath put down the mighty from their seat : and hath exalted the humble and meek.

He hath put down the mighty from their seat : and hath exalted the humble and meek. (Click on the link for the scoop)

A photograph taken in Argentina in 2007 shows two cardinals, Jorge Mario Bergoglio and Tarcisio Bertone, sitting side by side, although their chairs are on two different levels. At the time, Bertone was the Vatican’s Secretary of State, having traveled to a village in northern Patagonia “in the name of His Holiness Benedict XVI” to preside over the beatification of a turn-of-the-century religious student.

Bertone’s wooden armchair sits on a dais that puts him a good six inches higher than Bergoglio, the Archbishop of Buenos Aires, who perches uncomfortably on his metal-and-plastic seat, and the man known to many as the “vice-pope” occupies his virtual throne with kingly complacency, clad in yards of fine Italian filetto lace beneath his golden chasuble, with a sporty pair of aviator sunglasses to complement his gold-embroidered miter (and is that a Rolex on his wrist?). Next to him, in Jesuit black under plain white robes, Cardinal Bergoglio, with his iron cross and his horn-rimmed spectacles, looks open-mouthed upon the radiant spectacle, his famously mobile face providing the perfect caption to the picture. Six years later, Bergoglio became Pope Francis, and things have not been the same since.

On May 19, the glossy, gossipy German newspaper Bild Zeitung printed a report that made immediate headlines in Italy: Vatican prosecutors had begun to investigate allegations that Cardinal Bertone, as the Holy See’s Number Two from 2006 to 2013, had embezzled 15 million euros ($20 million) from Vatican accounts, apparently to benefit an Italian television producer, a former director of the state broadcaster RAI named Ettore Bernabei, with deep connections to Italy’s conservative establishment and a longtime membership in the powerful Catholic organization Opus Dei. The transfer of these funds allegedly occurred in December 2012. The Vatican press corps swiftly denied that a “criminal investigation” was underway, and Bertone himself insisted that the deal had followed “all the rules.”

But the timing of the presumptive transaction is, to say the least, interesting. It came at the very end of the remarkable year in which confidential documents from Pope Benedict’s private office began leaking to the press, revealing power struggles within the Curia and suggestions of widespread corruption within the Church. In these “Vatileaks” documents, Cardinal Bertone figured prominently: he had personally reproved the general secretary of the Vatican governorate, Archbishop Carlo Maria Viganò, for reporting detailed evidence of nepotism, cronyism, and crooked property deals within the Vatican, and soon Pope Benedict had transferred the whistle-blowing prelate from the Vatican to Washington.

In May 2012, tensions escalated still further: the papers from the Viganò affair and other confidential documents were published and analyzed in a book by journalist Gianluigi Nuzzi, Sua Santità (His Holiness); Ettore Gotti Tedeschi, head of the Vatican bank, was deposed from office after a vote of no confidence by the institution’s governing board (whose five members were themselves fired this month); and the Pope’s butler, Paolo Gabriele, was arrested as the probable source of the Vatileaks papers and confined to a room on the Vatican grounds. In October 2012, a Vatican court convicted Gabriele of grand theft and sentenced him to jail. By December, however, when the transfer of monies is said to have occurred, Bertone could have felt more confident about his position within the Church; even the pardon Pope Benedict extended to his former butler was only a partial pardon, for Paolo Gabriele remains exiled forever from Vatican territory….Read More


A bit about yours truly.

Though Catholic missionaries screwed with my head, something akin to mental rape by Jesuits; I do have a soft spot for them — kinda Stockholm syndrome. The less said, the better. The Jesuits and other Catholic missionaries I know keep harping about the fact that they provide India with the best education possible. That is why I have put my kid in an upscale English medium Hindu school. They admit token poor students in the metropolises and exalt in the sadistic pleasure they dole out to parents seeking admissions in their sad conversion mills. Oh yes, they don’t get to catch most Hindus — but then seen from the evangelical viewpoint; that is their failing ( vide Fr. Amaladoss S.J. in Jivan).

By the way, I have two additional qualifications in Catholic theology from a well known Catholic seminary. And by the grace of God, I was barely getting converted by the Jesuits when I was saved by the Atman who is in all — for me, the Ramakrishna Mission. 

Incidentally , the Jesuits I know love their Blackberries gifted to them by their businessmen friends; they love metropolitan glamour and are nothing like our sannyasins. Oh yes, the clergy in India prefer saffron clothes and the nuns wear saris — that is because they are trying to inculturate. They want to convert India. If I am wrong then please see Jivan, the in-house journal of the Jesuits of India. Fr. Amaladoss S.J. rues the fact that Indian Jesuits have not been able to convert India; nor are they educationally relevant anymore. 

Oh, under Jesuit influence I ran away from home at 18. & I am a single child (now a greying adult ;-) ) of my parents.  The Salesians at Sonada, Darjeeling hid me (under the Calcutta Province of the Salesians of Don Bosco). My luggage was conscientiously kept with the cloistered Carmelite nuns in Calcutta. They lied to my dad about my whereabouts. ( I was lucky; I did not convert — but the present Provincial of the Jesuits in Kolkata is a Hindu convert ). Before suing me, please read Jivan … I have an article there too published in 2006, saying how the Jesuits have sold out in India — they published it alongside their Superior General’s interview. 

In all fairness I knew a great Christian Brother; a great Canadian Jesuit and a few others who were not after my soul — saints all. Sadly it is my misfortune that the ones I know today are not those who walk with the middle classes of India, leave alone the poor.

from Uddhava Gita

Just as from within himself the spider expands thread through his mouth, plays with it for some time and eventually swallows it, similarly, the Supreme Personality of Godhead expands His personal potency from within Himself. Thus, the Lord displays the network of cosmic manifestation, utilizes it according to His purpose and eventually withdraws it completely within Himself.