I have always maintained in this blog the Hindu ideal of the good-life. Hindu seers relentlessly try to portray Hinduism as a very non-sexual religion. This is because of two reasons:
- The great influence that Advaita Vedanta had on Hindu thinkers.
- The Christian missionaries who entered into dialogues with Hindus solely did so with Vedantists or later, with monks descended from the Dashanamis.
Now Hinduism has never been monastic. There have been monks all throughout Hindu history but they have been statistically insignificant. For instance, one is pretty certain that most of the Upanishads have been written by (wo)men who were firmly rooted in the life of the flesh. It is within this nexus of being sexual and spiritual simultaneously they understood that all is vanity and nothing under the sun endures. Therefore I have been a votary of eros in these pages. Not for me the way of abstinence; not for me is the way of repression and the silencing of desire. It is another thing that I respect monks and nuns of my religion. They have passed the stage of fleshly cravings. It is my understanding that it is not too healthy to not allow the libido to function. Any normal blossoming of the libido is not inimical for spiritual development. It is a myth that sexuality and the libidinal harm spiritual growth. If that was the case then we Hindus would not have bothered with the Sage Vatsyana. Now here are some artifacts which come from within India and are definitely worth noticing. They are better than anything the West can offer.
Before I proceed to them; I’d add that Christianity in dialogue with Hinduism has latched on to our monks; since the former prioritizes monasticism over the life of what St. Paul dismissed as the sarx, the fallen flesh. Sex is beautiful; sexualities are natural and it is great to release steam.
This is one of the best books ever written on being a woman; on being a sexual woman and being intensely sexy. The onus is on Sri Krishna to satiate Sri Radhika. There are no two ways about this book and it beats Nancy Friday every which way.
The Indian Government clamped down on Savita Bhabhi since she was supposed to be sullying the heads of our young men. This presupposes that YouTube etc. are simply not there and Ram Leela does not sizzle. Neither did this account take the desires of lesbians in our country. Savita Bhabhi helped quite a few. C’mon, she beats every shade of grey hands on; ouch the pun; any day.
Singh’s beautiful take on the need for sexual company which might turn into the need for friendship and not the other way round; is a very relaxing (or is the right word, exciting?) read. The women love to have sex in this book and there’s no patriarchy involved here. Of course, scholars can find everything anti-feminist and they can rant on; but who in the real world cares.
As a humanities guy who counsels others I know it for a fact that sexy fantasies are better any day than sending lewd remarks to female colleagues or to lurk in the web to catch lolitas.
Now we come to more touchy issues: were we Hindus for polygamy? See Draupadi; there is no denying that she craved the company of all her husbands. From the times of Claude Levi Strauss we are unsure whether our societies demand of us polygamy, polyamory or sapiosexuality. The truth of the matter is that I have elided the whole chastity issue and the monogamy stuff.
About a month ago a young girl came to me seeking some personal help. Since I am in the professional business of listening to others I found myself telling this to the client (yah, I said this)
Girl of 23: Dad’s having an affair. Mum does not know. I am enraged.
I: Why are you enraged? … May be you are disturbed because what I know of you, you are a pretty independent girl and find your current boyfriend dull. Is it possible that you are worried that you will end up like your dad, since you said to me your mom is pretty pathetic? Have you thought about it that your came to me for seeking help with your own sexual impulses and not about protecting your mom? Is it possible that your dad will resolve the affair himself?
The girl agreed to most of the things I told her. We want ideal lives but the reality is different. Wo/men change over their lifespans and unless you are comfy with that, sorry, you are a nerd. Period.